tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post2351165866628891476..comments2023-05-15T08:51:12.031-04:00Comments on Love and Disdain: Oh Dad, poor DadDr. Kosharyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07777054788430587906noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post-21340489269335877202010-10-06T16:46:29.884-04:002010-10-06T16:46:29.884-04:00It really is amazing. I don't have many friend...It really is amazing. I don't have many friends like me who dropped out of the PhD program, but I know it was right for me precisely because of what you describe above. I think I'm a lot more like your dad than you, even though I have lived abroad in "scary" places, learned a "scary" language, and travel now a lot for work. I just want to "settle down," and I want a small little rowhouse and I want stability and I want to have a home. Looking at it now, maybe the stability in your family made you want to go out in the world, while the insanity and instability of mine made me wish for the opposite. And what Sisyphus said: my mom is retiring at 60 next year with a several-thousand-a-month university pension, a very healthy retirement situation (because of several inheritances), and has plans to work at a tiny bookstore and travel the world. That will not be me. That will not likely be any of us. Although, I have to say, I do have a 401k :)Nopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830669309065736579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post-59169735305652009592010-10-05T22:46:42.995-04:002010-10-05T22:46:42.995-04:00Yup yup ---- my dad was willing to move, but other...Yup yup ---- my dad was willing to move, but other than that it's a very familiar story. <br /><br />And I think the "this time has come and gone" is actually way more important than academia at this point --- I was reading Frantzen's _The Corrections_ and it's totally the same story. (I still haven't finished it, oof).<br /><br />My dad has a *pension* from one of his many jobs, and that, in addition to the 401k stuff, gives him a level of security in retirement that I don't think I will ever have ---- even many of my friends who work "regular career" jobs these days don't have a 401k... or if they did, they got laid off and are now temping or doing contract work. <br /><br />Sigh. Stupid globalization and monopoly capitalism.Sisyphushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09880634753539329199noreply@blogger.com