tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post1988211592244157254..comments2023-05-15T08:51:12.031-04:00Comments on Love and Disdain: Post-partum depression (of a sort)Dr. Kosharyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07777054788430587906noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post-4596875816922107752010-04-27T23:51:48.749-04:002010-04-27T23:51:48.749-04:00Thanks, all! It's good to hear these reassura...Thanks, all! It's good to hear these reassurances. (Although I would eventually like to retrieve my butter knife -- the toast is getting cold.) Just having an external voice to tell me these things is much better than trying to calm myself with the same thoughts. <br /><br />And yes, Sis, I am shamefully aware of how much I sound like a discontented Jedi. The worst thing about that is that it makes me feel like I'm being mashed up with Hayden Christensen in those godawful prequels. Somehow I feel especially ashamed that my behavior echoes that of a talentless douchebag reciting dialogue written by George Lucas.Dr. Kosharyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07777054788430587906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post-89484065419137352672010-04-25T21:45:45.927-04:002010-04-25T21:45:45.927-04:00What Dr. Crazy said. I was sandwiched between two ...What Dr. Crazy said. I was sandwiched between two Golden Children, and (as I blogged, once upon a time), really felt like my advisor's forgotten middle child.<br /><br />But careers are very, very long, and people mature at different rates and in unexpected ways, as I'm sure you've seen just in your time in grad school. My Elder and Younger Sisters are still doing quite well, professionally, but several years out of grad school the differences among us don't look (or, more importantly: feel) as great any more, and it's clear to me that no one can predict where any one of us will be in five or ten or twenty years--much less what our relative statuses will be.Flaviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17832765671541392835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post-47929071307345280132010-04-25T14:22:31.725-04:002010-04-25T14:22:31.725-04:00It really and truly will be ok. I knew people lik...It really and truly will be ok. I knew people like Supersmart in graduate school, and you know what? Some of them have ended up as superstars, some of them have decidedly not lived up to their potential, and some of them have left the profession altogether. In other words, being Supersmart in grad school is absolutely no predictor of future superstardom, nor is not being Supersmart any indication of your abilities or future.<br /><br />And let me tell you. I was not one of those Supersmart people in grad school. I was a hard worker, an enthusiastic teacher and scholar, but "my ideas lacked sophistication" and blah blah blah. Nobody told me that they learned anything from anything that I produced in graduate school, or complimented me, really, at all. Well, other than on my personality. Which did not make me feel good about my prospects as an academic, I must say. The truth is that getting OUT of that environment made me into a much more interesting and flexible thinker, and it made me much more productive and curious. <br /><br />One of the best pieces of advice that I got in graduate school was that I needed to remember that a dissertation is only the first thing you'll ever produce as a professional academic - not the last. And at the end of the day, writing the bestest ever dissertation doesn't really mean anything in terms of a career over the long term.Dr. Crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12457967076373916629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7404056807161357402.post-63966547658687874012010-04-25T13:21:22.514-04:002010-04-25T13:21:22.514-04:00ahh, comparisons, envy, discontent ---- you have l...ahh, comparisons, envy, discontent ---- you have learned well the ways of the Dark Side, young Skywalker! <br /><br />Yeah, that won't go away. But at least you're funny! *takes away butter knife*Sisyphushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09880634753539329199noreply@blogger.com